seventeen month update.


What is going on? Time seems to have become elastic at the moment, and sitting down and writing the shortest of updates seems to be impossible. But here we go.

Appearance and Growth:
A random fact: this week I put away all of his little baby sleep suits and switched him fully to pyjama sets. I haven’t as yet been all that emotional about the end of the baby phase, but something about that simple act felt very poignant. No more baby clothes, no more baby.

On the move:
The boy runs! Nearly everywhere, usually whilst looking in the opposite direction, so we have had a month of bumped heads and bruises. Following his brother’s lead he is trying with earnest to jump, which as yet amounts to bending his knees then springing up and throwing his arms in the air. He’s very proud of his efforts.

Food and drink:
This boy could merrily live on: black olives, puppadums, crisps, raisins and satsumas. He rarely touches: cheese (cheese! Who is this child?), bread, rice, any carb except for pasta and dry crackers. He has mastered using a fork to pick up foods and eat (more than can be said for his rather more feral older brother), but still asserts that he has finished his meal by throwing the whole lot across the room and signing ‘all done’ with panache.

We have been spending a lot of time in the garden this month, which presents all sorts of opportunities for a curious toddler, including but not limited to: picking recently planted flowers, putting pebbles in the pond, putting anything else he can find into the pond, trying to climb into the pond, pouring water from the watering can onto his feet, throwing leaves, tasting the soil, tasting snail shells, tasting everything. Indoors he has begun to enjoy scribbling with felt tips.

Since the start of British Summer Time he has been waking up at a slightly more respectable hour (close to 6am, or afterwards most days). Hallelujah!

He has a few words now (my favourite new one is bear), but still only really uses words if he is asked to, rather than spontaneously. The rest of the time he has a very distinctive babble (‘la la la, ta ta ta’), that we all seem to talk in now. He has learned an approximation of the sign for thank you (he flings his arm out to the side rather than bringing it to his chin), and also signs sleep (he sticks his finger up his nose and says ‘Shhhh’ if he sees a picture of someone sleeping). He has totally inherited his brother’s love of dinosaurs though and despite only saying a few words, he can identify a whole raft of different dinosaurs in the books that we have and loves to point them out and have you say their names, then quiz him on where they all are.

I suddenly had one of those moments this month where I looked at him, almost with fresh eyes and thought, ‘Oh, you’re a little boy now’. He loves to give big kisses and to cuddle up while he drinks his milk in the morning and he runs around the house looking very busy and important. The onset of tantrums is definitely here. If he can’t have something or go somewhere that he wants to go (off down the street EVERY time we get out of the car at the moment), he cries and bangs his head and throws whatever object is to hand in absolute horror at his maltreatment. It’s generally short lived, but he certainly has a hot temper. He often wants what his brother has, which is hard because I’m not in the game of making kids give up their toys, even for a persistent little brother. They are so cute together though and the picture above is of him belly laughing at his brother snapping twigs in the woods, which for some reason he found hilarious.

Life Lately: Into Spring.

I have been thinking a lot recently about how the way I spend my time ebbs and flows, and the things I choose to focus on changes. There are the non negotiables, our status quo: keeping the house (reasonably) clean, putting cooked meals on the table most nights of the week, setting aside a little time each day to watch the children play, to read to them, to take them swimming and to the park. This forms the backbone of my days.

Then there are fluid areas, and sometimes I only have the energy to fill these with reading stuff on the Internet and watching TV. But sometimes, when I have a little left to spare, I write, or I bake something, or read, y’know, an actual book.

Right now is the time of the garden. Whether we’re planting, or digging, making new play spaces, or just sitting out there, that’s where I want to be, at the expense of pretty much everything else. It is the first time since we moved here that I feel totally relaxed about our outdoor space. We did a lot of major clearing last year, and while our lawn is still more moss and bare earth than grass, and every available space is currently full of unidentified bulbs, I just love it. It’s such a hodge podge, and the exact opposite of manicured, but finally I feel like I am getting a lot of enjoyment from it, rather than considering it a giant chore.

So at the moment the house is often more of a mess than I like, and a lot of other things, like this blog, are having to give, but I am really loving this Spring so far, and hoping the good weather lasts.

(Oh, PS. I finally worked out how make a gallery in WordPress, so you can click on each thumbnail to make it full size and then scroll through).

^^So far the kids have a pirate ship made from a pallet and a broom, a sandpit made from a builders tray and some rocks we’ve uncovered over the years, and a mud kitchen made from bricks and an old shelf. Nothing fancy or state of the art, but they play so happily, which lets me not only get stuff done, but occasionally put my feet up too.

^^One of my favourite things in the garden is a dilapidated old chair swing that was left by the old owners. Sometimes I get it to myself for a few minutes, but usually I’m joined by this ham.

^^This one is just happy as long as he has access to a washing up bowl of soapy water, and a vessel from which to sneakily drink it when I’m not looking.

^^The good weather also meant our first trip to the beach this year. I remembered to put the Mancub in his swimming trunks as I know he has a penchant for getting right in, even when the sea is still icy cold, but I foolishly forgot towels and a change of clothes, not realising that he would actually go swimming. While still in his tshirt. Lesson learned, I will be fully prepared for next time.

On a Mission.








This weekend the Mancub and I went to visit my friend in Nottingham. Thanks to the ever infuriating M25 it took us a solid five and a half hours to get there on Friday, but luckily that boy can stare out of a window for longer than most.

On Saturday we went to The National Space Centre, which is cool but if you’re American, please don’t EVER go there because, embarrassing. It’s on an industrial estate on the outskirts of Leicester and is essentially there to show case the fact that our contribution to space exploration amounts to basically zero. Nevertheless! They have some cool exhibits for littles, including a launch simulator and different shows on through the day. It was a great way to spend a morning, the highlight being the glass elevator ride up the side of a space shuttle.

It was also a big treat to have a weekend away with my biggest boy. We shared a bed, which we’ve never done before, and he LOVED it, snuggling up all night and waking me with the question, ‘Why is some snot wet and some snot dry?’. Okay kid, let me have a coffee at least before we get into today’s big philosophical questions.

Back home #2 got some quality time with his Dad, and on Sunday night we both reflected on how damn nice it is to have just one kid to think about sometimes.

Learning at home: Reading.


This week, at just shy of three and a half, the Mancub learned to jump with two feet, and read. One of those things was just on the cusp of worryingly late, the other? Well allow me at least a second to Mom brag: the boy can read. Words. Short words admittedly (cat, dog, pot, win), but he sees them, sounds them out, and then tells me what they say. To say that he is excited by this development is something of an understatement. He laughed hysterically for a minute after he read his first word before shouting, ‘Write another!’. And another. And another.

At this point I believe I’m supposed to insert some sort of platitude along the lines of, ‘It’s incredible! Unbelievable! I don’t know where it came from!’, which would be something of a misnomer. I do know where it came from, because I taught him to read. So obviously I knew it was coming and it doesn’t really surprise me, but nevertheless, I’m pretty blown away by it. I’m only human, just like he is only three.

Anyway, I thought it might be nice to share a few of the strategies I have used here, because they are things you can do with a child of any age, providing they find them fun and engaging and providing they are ready. Feel free to take a few of them away, or just ignore them and write me off as a terrible show off. If you’re new to this blog or don’t come here often I should also probably point out that I am a primary school teacher by trade, hence my ability to ramble on about this topic for far too many words.


I don’t think there are many things that we are obligated to do as parents. Feeding and clothing our children is a good start. A few toys are essential I suppose. Love, warmth, affection, but certainly nothing as complicated as the thousands of parenting books on the market would suggest.

Reading for me, like clothes and food, is a non negotiable. Stories, comics and magazines. Poetry, nursery rhymes and information books. All children love being read to, and if they are read to frequently, all children will, eventually, want to learn to read for themselves. It might be when they are two, it might be when they are seven, but I fundamentally believe that children have an innate desire to learn that needs little encouragement.

What we, as parents, carers and teachers have the power to do, is to put out that flame of desire in an instant if we push them too soon, or make reading a chore. Learning anything, whether it’s riding a bike or reading a book should always come from a child’s willingness and ability to do so. I’m absolutely not advocating here that we sit down all kids at age 3 and teach them phonics (that that is happening in nurseries across the country makes my heart sink), just that we to read to them, as early and as often as possible, then the rest will naturally follow.

But, my kid showed an interest. He had that desire, and he has a good grasp of words and letters, so I did some things with him that moved his reading forward to the point he is at now, where he can decode short words himself and make a good guess at many others based on their context and initial letter. Here are a few of the things we’ve been doing over the past year.


Strategies for Reading With Children.

As I have said, for me the single most important thing a parent can do with regards to their child’s education is to read to them. I had a bedtime story every night until I was around ten years old, and I still remember the feeling of sadness when I realised I was too old to have one any more. No child would ever want to read unless they have an incentive to do so. Reading them stories that they love provides that incentive, as well as about a million other benefits.

Alongside this you can begin to introduce your child to the phonetic alphabet. There is no harm in teaching letter names (A, B, C etc), but it is more beneficial in terms of learning to read to teach the phonetic sounds (A is a hard a, like at the start of Apple, B is buh, C is cuh, E is eh like at the start of Elephant etc). I bought a few simple alphabet books and used these as a starting point, (I would trace the letter with his finger and sing ‘Buh is for ball, Buh-Buh-Ball or whatever was on that page). We also played with magnetic letters (Can you find me puh for parrot?), letter jigsaws and stampers. We wrote letters on pebbles and we traced them in the sand. (Side note: our ridiculously complex language means that all letters can represent many different sounds, so it’s best to go with the most common. However the Mancub’s name ends in a y, which in his name makes an ‘ee’ sound like at the end of monkey, so I taught him right away that Y makes a ‘yuh’ sound at the start of words, but an ‘ee’ sound at the end. He doesn’t seem to find this too confusing, but usually refers to Y as ‘ee’. You might want to do this if your child also has a phonetically complex name such as Phillip or Cedric).

As your child begins to learn some of their letters and sounds you can introduce games like I Spy. The Mancub always finds this easier if instead of spotting things around the room that we can actually see, we play on a theme, (I spy with my little eye, an animal that begins with duh… Duck / a dinosaur that begins with sss… Stegosaurus / someone who begins with mmm… Mama). Sometimes I would collect a bunch of objects on a tray and we would play I spy with them, and you could also use those ‘find it’ books. The point of all this I spying is to focus on the initial sounds of words, as a segue into being able to spell and read them. As a way of encouraging them to think about it from the opposite perspective you could ask your child, I’m writing a card to Grandma, what letter does Grandma begin with? If they’re old enough they could write or use a stamper to print the first letter for you. You could also do this when your writing shopping list (what letter do I need at the start of bananas?), or you could write a story together (they tell you a story, you write it down, but ask them for help with some words).

If your child is enjoying books, they know most of their letters and can pick out the initial sound of familiar words, you might like to start helping them to segment words (break words up into their individual sounds), and blend them (put them back together again). This sounds complicated, but is basically what we’re doing all the time when we read and spell unfamiliar words. We sound them out, we turn those sounds into a word. A nice way to do this is play a game based on your child’s interests. The Mancub loves Octonauts, so I ask him, ‘Which Octonaut am I? D-a-sh-ee’, and he is able to put those sounds together to say, ‘Dashi’. We have done lots of this sort of thing on different themes, and he likes having a go at sounding out words for me to guess too.

Finally, once you put those skills together, you have the building blocks of reading. In time your child will go from having the component parts, to being able to look at a word and sound it out ‘c-a-t’, and know that it makes the word cat. It’s magic really, and it does just seem to happen over night. Of course not all children take this route to learning to read, but it is the one most commonly taught in schools now.


This is the beginning of a long journey. The Mancub doesn’t yet know that sometimes two letters go together to make a sound like sh or ch. He finds it hard to read words longer than three letters, because it’s still too challenging to hold onto all of those letters in his head and blend them. And then there’s words like ‘the’ and ‘was’ and ‘he’, that can’t be sounded out and just need to be learned by heart.

But he’s on the road and he’s so excited to get going that it’s infectious.

I hope you’ve found some of these little activities of interest or of use. Ultimately I think my only advice is to be led by your child, to use their interests and enjoyment as a starting point and to do little bits here as they want to, (we play these games for no more than a few minutes at a time, and by no means each day).

If you’re child is anything like mine, the laughter that follows the first time they read the word ‘bum’ out loud will be worth it.

The problem with Princesses.

^^What the Disney Princesses would look like with realistic hair. Via Buzzfeed.

Oh those bloody Disney Princesses, I knew they’d catch up with me one day.

Before having children I viewed them as the axiom of everything that was wrong with childhood in a supposedly post feminist world. In the name of shifting films, books and an awful lot of merchandise, little girls are bombarded with images of these supposedly perfect examples of womanhood, with their nipped in waists and doe eyes, swirling dresses and no notable qualities other than the ability to sing, dance and make their man happy. I swore up and down that if I ever had a daughter, the Princesses, along with Barbie, would be categorically unwelcome in our house.

And then I found myself in a situation where today I sent my eldest son to preschool dressed as Cinderella, asking me, ‘Does my hair look pretty?’, not having read him a bedtime story other than a rotation of fairy tales for weeks.

My main problem with fairy tales, and in turn the highly branded line up of Disney Princesses that they have spawned, is that they tend to depict women as one of two tropes: the kind, sweet, animal loving protagonist, who enjoys singing with blue birds and baking pies, but who has no discernible problem solving skills nor desire for anything beyond being rescued by a handsome prince (see: Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, Ariel, Jasmine etc etc); and the evil antagonist, who is driven mad by her jealousy of anyone younger and more beautiful than her, to the point where murder is inevitable (Malificent, Ursula et al). The message is clear: these are your choices girls, a simpering beauty or a total bitch. It is limiting to say the least.

In their defence Disney have made advances of late, most notably with Brave, which features Merida, a much more robust, independent, smart as a whip kind of a Princess, who provides an antidote to the irksome saps who rely on their Princes to get them out of trouble. Frozen also focuses on the love between two sisters, as opposed to winning the approval of a man, yet falls short for me, because it’s still inexplicably done whilst dancing around in sexy dresses, when clearly an anorak and boots would have been much more appropriate attire for a snow covered mountain.

However, the classic ‘Princess’ range remains predictably dull. I was convinced, in desperate times (ahead of a three hour flight and vaccinations), into buying two issues of the Dinsey Princess magazine (BEST SELLING MAGAZINE FOR GIRLS!). Honestly, this stuff is just mind numbing. In the latest issue readers are invited to play a game whereby the winner gets to be Princess Aurora’s bridesmaid (OMG! Squee!), while the stories focus on the characters’ ability to pick flowers, bake cupcakes and, I kid you not, prepare a romantic picnic for their prince. Is anyone else sensing a rather tiresome theme emerging here?

Is this really all little girls, and more pertinently the parents of little girls, want (I say girls because I assume that’s who Disney look to for feedback)? Or is this just what they are being spoon fed? Why couldn’t Disney take those original characters, and put them into new situations that highlight more aspirational qualities: Cinderella’s picnic gets hijacked by the Stepsisters, so she single handedly forages for a new one, before building an escape route for her and the Prince in the process, (as opposed to the actual solution which was… She got rescued by some swans. I mean, really?). It just feels like there is no appetite to update these characters into strong, smart women with attributes to aspire to. Disney, and I can only assume vast swathes of parents, are happy to stick with this bizarre 1950s idea of women as something to look good and be rescued. Nothing more. It’s depressing.

As the parent of a boy who is currently Princess mad, I obviously have a slightly different take on it. It is not so much what he aspires to be that I worry about (I can only assume that his desire to be a Princess will be relatively short lived), but with how he is seeing women being portrayed.

I remember hearing an interview with Caitlin Moran, talking about whether or not she lets her young daughters watch pop videos. Another woman on the show revealed that she doesn’t let her daughter watch Rhianna’s music videos, because she considers them too sexualised, while Caitlin countered that she lets her daughters watch them, but also has a frank conversation about their content: ‘Poor Rhianna, how do you think she feels dressed like that? What if she has a cold? Or is on her period? I bet she’d rather be wearing a nice cardie.’ Instead of censoring, she uses those portrayals of women as a means to discussing how they are problematic and offering up alternatives.

I’ve taken my lead from this I suppose. I haven’t banned fairytales (although the versions we read are the classic stories, rather than the Disney adaptations), and he has been allowed to watch some of the Disney Princess films and listen to the soundtracks. But we talk about the endings, at an age appropriate level, and within our play I try and subvert the roles, at least a little, to make sure he knows that Princesses can be strong, capable, brave and intelligent, as well as pretty and kind.

I also ensure that the Princesses aren’t by any means the only depiction of women and girls he is exposed to. Zog by Julia Donaldson and The Paper Bag Princesses by Robert Munsch both offer direct alternatives to the traditional fairy tale ending (one princess shuns royalty in order to be a Doctor, the other declines her Prince’s offer of marriage when he criticises her appearance), and there are plenty of examples of other strong, feisty girls on our bookshelves from Lola of Charlie and Lola to Pippi Longstocking and Matlida. Films, I admit, are harder to come by, and I would love recommendations of U rated films that feature a strong female lead that aren’t even necessarily subverting the traditional female stereotype but are just… girls, doing their thing (Despicable Me, Brave and Annie are my favourite examples, but it’s hard to find others).

Ultimately, I know that it is the women and girls around him, who serve as his most important role models. I am grateful that both of his Grandmothers are as happy digging for minibeasts in the garden as they are baking cakes in the kitchen, and that his best friend is a girl who can outrun him as much as he can outprincess her. He also has a whole range of other interests and I am currently indebted to the Octonauts who feature both a female engineer and pilot, for some much needed balance in our house.

The Disney Princesses might be getting the better of me at the moment (especially with renewed requests for a Cinderealla doll), but I’m in this for the long haul, and I know I’ll win out in the end.

Life Lately.

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^^Spring is just around the corner and we are out and about again. #2 being able to walk makes a whole lot of difference and it’s sweet to see the pair of them running around, or in this case waiting impatiently for me by the front door.

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^^A couple of weeks ago the Mancub and I went on our first Mama/son lunch date. We went for a walk around Brighton, popped in to The Dome for some of their International Women’s Day activities, and then to a super kid friendly Italian restaurant. He had a whole plate of white bait (frequently announcing, look I’ve pulled this one’s head off! And now I’m eating it! I just ate an eye!), and we ‘shared’ a fruit salad for dessert, (I was generously gifted two grapes and a strawberry, while he polished off the rest). He was so well behaved and it was lovely to give him my full, undivided attention for a change. As much as I love having his baby brother around, it’s nice to have some treats that are just for me and my biggest boy.

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^^There is nothing sweeter on Mother’s Day than the sound of stage whispers at the bottom of the stairs, followed by some very loud tiptoeing and finally the announcement of, ‘Mama wake up, we brought you some presents! They are flowers and chocolates!’ (He hasn’t quite grasped the concept of surprise yet). We went for our annual trek to The Long Man at Wilmington to take a family photo (our fourth time), then when the wind set in we retired for take away pizza with friends. Take out = zero washing up, so a pretty damn perfect Mother’s Day in my book.

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^^Now the Mancub is settled at preschool it’s such a luxury to have some guilt free one on one time with this little one. When the Mancub was small we did a lot more elaborate craft activities or baking, but that required a lot of preparation and a LOT of clean up afterwards. Time with this one is precious, so we do simple things. We read a lot of books, load his toy Octonauts into the fire engine a hundred or so times, cuddle, and occasionally get the paint brushes and water out on a sunny day. I found the baby stage hard work this time around, but this toddler, despite his increasing hot headedness and propensity to literally throw his toys out of the pram if he doesn’t get his own way, he’s my light.

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^^Nothing makes me happier than these two laughing like drains together.

Over thinking and Instagramming.

I have, as I am prone to, been over thinking things. I cannot, it seems, just be a normal person and embrace social media and the future, no. I need to constantly dissect what I am doing online and the purpose of it and the legacy of it, especially when it comes to my children.

A long time ago now I deleted My Facebook and Twitter accounts and decided to concentrate anything I wanted to write or share about life with my kids into this blog. It has worked well, and I am happy that any friends I have who are interested in that aspect of my life read along, and those that aren’t, don’t. I am grateful too to have made some wonderful friends online, who also share their parenting stories somewhere in the vast chasm of the Internet, and connect over oceans, through shared experience.

But then recently I got lured into Instagram, with its pretty filters and how easy it is to snap a picture in the park and have it uploaded in seconds.

Cue the overthinking.

On the one hand it has been cool to take a quick snap of the sky or some trees, tag it, and have a bunch of strangers like it. On the other, I began to find it a little uncomfortable if those strangers then scrolled through my feed and liked a photo of my kid on the beach. I like the community aspect of sharing photos on a particular theme, but I’m not sure that it marries up that well with also sharing personal photos in the same space.

I am well aware that this blog is extremely public and that I write very personally and share a lot here. But somehow to me this (perhaps naively, I don’t know), feels like a protected space. Readers only come here if they have a genuine interest in reading what I have to say. I say that mainly becaus it takes a lot of effort to wade through all of this content, as opposed to the ease of scrolling through someone’s Instagram feed, double tapping as you go. You are, if you have even made it to this point in the post (to which I say congratulations!), engagjng on a level that goes way beyond just hitting the like button because you think a random kid is cute.

So I decided to hold back. I will keep the photos and ramblings about my family here, on my blog. They might pop up occasionally on my Instagram, but I mainly want that to be a space where I just share some nice photos of where I live. It has been a great motivation to seek out beauty in my surroundings, which I am enjoying, but the rest stays here.

As such I’ve decided to start a semi regular (everything is semi regular at best with me, as you may have noticed), ‘Life Lately’ style post to share the moments that I capture with my family. I used to do a similar thing called ‘Five Photos’, but I want this to be a little looser, a bit of a dumping ground for photos and moments that I don’t want to get lost in the abys, but I don’t necessarily want on Instagram either.

Below are a few you might have already seen. The next one will be a bit less about my ability to drain the spontaneity and joy out of everything, and a little more about what we’ve been up to lately.

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^^A trip to the park, A few snaps from the beach in Portugal, a poorly Mancub when we returned and exploring the woods and cliffs where we live.

sixteen month update.

A bit late this month and time just seems to keep flying by. Here is a slightly belated update of what #2 is up to at the moment.


Appearance and Growth:
Not much to report, his growth has reached a steady rate, his hair keeps getting longer at the back yet nowhere else and he is still the cutest when he smiles and his little cheeks pop out.

On the move:
#2 is walking so confidently now and toddles around over different levels and surfaces when we’re out and about. He enjoys playing a game where he deliberately falls, so I say, ‘ooplah’, then he gets up and does it again. He still crawls up and down the stairs, but that’s just about the only time he does.

Food and drink:
He is still eating a lot less than he used to, which I guess is a little surprising, as I thought he would be using that much more energy now he’s walking. He’s a real front loader, and eats a lot in the morning (toast, cereal, fruit, raisins all before 9am), then eats less at each meal, barely touching his dinner most nights. This is frustrating as I’m sure it’s not helping his desire to wake up at the crack of dawn and that’s often when we’ll eat most of our more adventurous meals and a lot of veg, but it’s a tough nut to crack.

As I mentioned earlier he likes playing a few physical games such a falling over and getting back up, chasing and spinning to music (and the Hoover), and hiding behind my back. He loves his spinning top and his toy whale and is starting to enjoy building towers, but mainly he still loves boxes of little things (he has a tray of shells, which end up all over the house), and books. His favourite is The Snail and The Whale.

One slightly irksome development is that #2 has started waking up really sad from his nap. I remember the Mancub going through this phase, and actually it lasted until he stopped napping, so that’s not particularly reassuring. He just wakes up so grumpy and will cry on and off, sometimes for up to an hour and usually it takes a change of scenery or getting out in the car to snap him out of it. I have no idea what causes this, but it’s difficult and I can’t think of any ways to make waking up easier for him, so any advice would be welcome.

This month he has started using the initial sounds for some words, which is exciting. He can say ‘bah’ for bat, and ‘wuh-wuh’, for both walrus and whale. He can sign ‘more’ really well now and says, ‘moh moh moh!’ to ask for more food, another book or another episode of Peter Rabbit on the laptop (ahem). He has morphed a lot of the animal noises he knows into words for animals, so ducks are ‘dack dack’, cats are ‘yah yah’ and owls are ‘wooh’. He can follow so many instructions now such as putting his shoes in the shoe box, or fetching a particular book (I said the opening lines to Peepo the other day, and he toddled off and picked it out), and he can point out tons of stuff in his books, although he doesn’t quite have the same obsession with learning birds that his brother did at this age.

This month has been a little tricky. He is so happy for much of the time, but he can go from happy and smiling to crying huge tears in an instant, and it’s not always clear what’s upset him (to us or him I think). He’s also developed a pretty insistent whine to let you know when something’s not to his liking and it’s hard on him because having a big brother means that a lot of the time I’m not necessarily able to focus on him and what he wants at that moment. I try to spend a little time each day giving him my complete attention, so he gets stories or playing or tickling, and it’s so rewarding to see how content he is, but I feel like too often he is just bimbling about trying to keep up with everything else that needs to be done. Not easy being second baby.

Kids on a plane.


^^Photos from my husband’s Instagram.

Much like writing your birth story and (over)sharing in excruciating detail how you wash your nappies, a post about flying with your kids for the first time is a rite of passage for any bonafide parenting blogger. I think the apprehension beforehand is such that afterwards you feel the need to declare to the Internet, ‘I did it! I survived! I did not hurl them out of the aeroplane window!’

And we did! We survived! We flew to Portugal and back without major incident and luckily for us (although not so lucky for the rest of the passengers), a delightful stag do totally stole our thunder as the people you’d most like to stab in the neck with a cocktail stick, and drowned out the noise of a squirmy baby and then some with their gripping accounts of exactly how much alcohol they had consumed in the last three hours. Gotta love the Brits abroad #proud.

My main concern before we went was packing enough stuff to keep both boys mildly entertained for the duration of the flight. I shouldn’t have worried (about that at least). The perpetual bookworm that is the Mancub already spends hours sitting on the sofa looking at books and absorbing magazines, so why I thought that three hours confined to a chair would be an issue for him I don’t know. He read his copy of Disney Princess Magazine from cover to cover on both flights (what an absolute festival of sexism that is by the way, but that’s a whole other post), and barely even noticed the aeroplane taking off.

At the other end of the ‘keeping yourself entertained’ spectrum was fifteen month old #2. Fifteen months is surely the WORST age to take a baby on a plane and I swear you couldn’t pay me to take him on a long haul flight right now. He is that heady mix of wanting to be constantly on the move, but with no ability to stay focused on any one thing for more than 3 seconds, so he worked through our selection of toys, books and stickers before we were even on the runway. We also flew out at his bedtime, but getting him to sleep with the afore mentioned stag party so close by was impossible. In fact, the only thing that kept him remotely occupied was a steady stream of snacks, from biscuits to fruit leather to sandwiches, so by the end he was not only exhausted, but also entirely wired on sugar, an excellent combination to be sure. In short: if you’re flying with a toddler, fill all your available luggage space with food.

However, having focused on the potential for disaster in the air, I totally overlooked getting us through the airport, forgetting that we’d be there for nearly as long as our flight. Having arranged to borrow a pushchair at our destination, I naively thought that we would be okay with two kids and one sling between them. Hahaha!

#2 is content to be in the Ergo, as long as I am moving at a steady pace. If I stand still for more than 15 seconds (ie. to queue for security, queue to get into the gate, queue for an interminably long time to get onto the plane), he wriggles and squirms to get down before beginning a never ending campaign of whining until at last you relent and just let him run around desks and security checkpoints, pulling things off conveyor belts, because you’re embarrassment at being seemingly unable to control your toddler is preferable to the whiningOHMYGODSTOPWHINING!!!

The Mancub on the other hand was more than happy to walk through the airport. Totally happy to cruise along at a rate of approximately a mile a day, taking in every screen, every item for sale in every shop, every vehicle spotted out of a window. Our gate was a twenty minute walk away at a normal pace, so we were faced with the choice of either dragging him along the polished floors by his sleeve, carrying him the entire way, or nearly missing our flight because we indulged his desire to spend ten minutes carefully observing the patterns on a chair. Obviously we went with the latter, because we are ridiculous.

Unlike Gatwick, who don’t give you anything for free, Faro airport have banks of pushchairs available to borrow, which caused my husband to almost cry with joy coming home. #2 is always content to be wheeled around, and having him in a pushchair meant I could pop The Mancub in the Ergo if we needed to get anywhere quicker than at snail’s pace. Never again will I travel without that option.

Others things to note: Easyjet’s inflight baby changing facilities are appalling. Very glad that I took a fold up change pad. // €5 for a small tub of Pringles and a bottle of water. Gravely regretted packing a million snacks for the boys, but none for us. // Ears. #2 has been pretty miserable since his flying experiences due to a heavy cold plus cabin pressure, which apparently equals all sorts of pain. Our health visitor assured me this is normal, although unpleasant, but I certainly wished I had packed a sugar free lolly for him to suck and some Calpol for the following day.

In between times there was also the small matter of HOLIDAY! Three glorious days of sunshine sandwiched into this miserable British winter and thanks to my parents’ impeccable babysitting service, we managed to eat out, without the kids, for all three nights. This alone was worth the flights. The Mancub loved scurrying around on the beach collecting hermit crabs and sea anemones and hurling himself into every available body of water, usually fully clothed because HOLIDAY! SUNSHINE! FREEDOM!

I should probably have dedicated a thousand words to that instead, but there’s something about flying with kids that you need to get out of your system afterwards. So there it is.